For fucks sake! Stop telling me what makes a woman sexy.
For one thing you don't get to tell me what I like. I choose that. Yes I happen to think both Christina Hendricks AND Keira Knightly are really hot because I don't prescribe to what everyone else is told to do.
Secondly, you're not helping anyone. You think you're doing curvy women a favour? They're curvy, and if they feel good about it and think they're sexy then they're probably doing fine and getting all the welcome attention they need. They don't need you cack-handedly attempting to help 'em.
But how do you think skinny girls feel? You think you're helping them feel better about themselves? Or bigger girls, whose curves don't fit your 50's hourglass ideals?
If you think you're trying to break down patriarchal/media fed notions of how women should look then you've messed up by swapping one 'perfect woman' for another.
I wholeheartedly stand in the camp that says there shouldn't be an ideal body type for women to be aiming for- but you're not in that camp.
You're setting up a new camp that all the other dickheads ride to on the back of your bandwagon.
Also, I guarantee it's 90% women posting these things, not men. Hell, I don't even see lesbians posting this shit. Neither have I seen gay guys posting the male equivalent. That's because people decide what they find attractive- it's personal preference. And in no way should that be forced down anyone's opinion hole.
A recent campaign from Dove got it spot on when it showed pictures of women looking the way they look and posed the question as to if you thought they were beautiful. Obviously, the intention was to illicit a response that suggested everyone is beautiful in their own way.
Unintentionally, however, they offer you the choice you have in real life: "Do I find you physically attractive?" Which, no matter what movie or tv show tries to tell us isn't the be all and end all of someone being beautiful, is still a big factor.
Alas it doesn't say "She likes Schwarzenegger movies" or "She laughs at dick jokes" or "She reads Game Of Thrones" or "She has season tickets to United" or any one of the many hidden things you'd get to find out about her if you got the chance. Cos for me, that is when she really gets sexy.
Rattling on about curvy women or if you're thin enough to have a thigh gap or having fake or real boobs/hair/tan- it doesn't matter. If she is sexy to you then she is sexy!
If it's cos that loose fitting jumper hangs on her the right way, or cos she'll act like a fool just to entertain your kids, or cos she knows just the right thing to say to you to make you feel better than you think you are, or how the recklessness of her bawdy Sid James style laugh makes her look truly free, or cos she unquestionably understands what Batman means to you, or cos she's the only girl you've met who agrees that American Psycho is an amazing comedy, or that when you're wrapped up in her she just feels like home.
Those should be what you're focused on.
If you'd all stop concerning yourself with what the exact perfect female image is then maybe we could move on.
Until next time fools,
Pete
I agree
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